…it’s important to know some basic rules, as well as some etiquette tools to keep us on the same page with respecting one another. No one says that you HAVE to follow any specific accounts, so if you’re choosing to follow someone, then there needs to be some common-ground expectations

Here are 12 social media etiquette tips and reminders…

If you find yourself triggered* by someone’s post, ask yourself these questions…

*Note: a “trigger” is a wound or bruise you have about a certain topic that brings up a “fight or flight” response in your brain when you come across it, as it reminds you of something you believed to be unfair or unjust in your own life.

Am I being closed-minded about this? 

Am I being too sensitive? 

Do I have realistic expectations of this person or account? 

Could I be misunderstanding what they’re trying to communicate? 

Am I someone who is okay to agree to disagree with others while still showing respect? 

Am I being stubborn and prideful? 

Am I feeling insecure about myself right now? 

Am I feeling triggered? If so, what is that I am feeling and why? 

Does this account/person bring me more joy or frustration?  

Am I just having an off day and need to go for a walk without looking at my phone?  

Am I open to hearing another perspective and why? 

At the end of the day, be sure to follow the 90/10 rule.

If 90% of the time, this person or account is enjoyable, helpful, and inspiring, keep on following. But, if you find yourself unhappy, triggered, disagreeing with the majority of their posts, or even feeling left out, unfollow and don’t regret it! 

Written by Meygan Caston
Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365 and lives in Orange County California with her husband Casey and their two children. She loves the beach, dance parties, writing, spa days, and helping couples connect in their marriage. Her life-long dream is to walk the Camino, have lunch with Brené Brown and get on The Price is Right.